Divorcing a Narcissist

January 04, 2019

Family Services

Divorcing a Narcissist

Sally Challen was jailed for the murder of her husband in 2011 but could a new law recognising psychological manipulation as a form of domestic abuse be a defence in her appeal hearing next month? See this BBC news article for more information.

Does your partner belittle you, or put you down, blame you for the abuse or arguments, isolate you from your friends or family, threaten to hurt or kill you, destroy things that belong to you, bite or kick you, make unwanted sexual demands? If you think you are in an abusive relationship there is help and guidance available from many sources including the police if it is an emergency.

Domestic abuse is a deliberate ongoing pattern of behaviour used by one person to control the actions and feelings of an intimate partner or family member. Anyone can be a victim of domestic abuse, regardless of age, gender, socio-economic status, sexuality or background. Domestic abuse is not just physical abuse – it can be emotional or psychological abuse sometimes due to the perpetrators narcissistic characteristics.  Separating from a partner who demonstrates narcissistic characteristics or has used coercive control throughout the relationship can be challenging.  Often the victim of coercive control will feel overwhelmed, disempowered from years of abuse and has difficulty functioning effectively.  The narcissist will want everything on their own terms and will not easily agree matters and will often have been used to exercising extreme financial control over their partner sometimes even after separation. 

It is always important to seek independent legal advice if you are contemplating a separation. Applications can be made to the Court for a Non-Molestation Orders and an Occupation Order. A Non-Molestation Order prevents an abuser coming near you, threatening you, encouraging others to threaten you or harassing you and preventing a reoccurrence of their behaviour.  An Occupation Order regulates who shall remain in the family home or prevents your abuser returning to a family home you may share.

At HMG Law our solicitors have extensive experience of helping clients who are victims of coercive control and domestic abuse and can assist you both with emergency measures to secure the safety of you and the children and also the long term separation including divorce, arrangements for the children and division of finances. 

If you require any further advice at HMG we offer all of our new client’s an initial  fixed fee appointment of £100 + VAT at either our Oxford or Bicester offices.

HMG Law, Family and Divorce Solicitors based in Oxford and Bicester.

Please call Christina or Alexandra on 01869 252244

posted by Christina Cree and Alexandra Smith | January 04 2019